Lucky for you I have decided to make your day by posting Mere-losophy number two. Feast your eyes on this, one and all!
For anyone who has been or is currently in a relationship, this one goes out to you. (It could also apply to those who might classify their relationship on facebook as "It's complicated with [insert name here])
One in a million, does it really exist? I have been a victim of this overly used and not usually thought through statement. It comes out (or some version of it) like word vomit when one is caught up in the overwhelming-ness of a somewhat serious relationship. Everyone in this type of relationship seems to think they have something "special" that no one else has. FALSE. Your young, obsessive, dysfunctional, sometimes fantastic relationship is just the same as everyone else's. There could be a few exceptions to this theory, but for the most part I am extremely correct. Each couple seems to think they really love each other, or what other people have is nothing in comparison. Think again, Bonnie and Clyde. Love is so much more. Or at least I hope so, because if what I and my friends have experienced is love, no thanks. I would like to think it is something so different than what our distorted twenty first century view of it is. "I love you" is thrown around like STD's these days. It is sickening really. Stop the madness, I beg of you! We are 18 (give or take) and should not be expecting to fall in love, find the one, be someone's one in a million, just yet. So take a chill pill. And stop acting like you're married to your boyfriend/girlfriend!! You will only feel stupid when you two break up. :) Live the good life and don't take this young love shit so seriously.
It don't mean a damn thanggg.
In good time,
Mere
I Disagree.(respectfully, of course) Not in the sense that I think my relationship is perfect. I admit it is not. However, I believe that this is a pretty big generalization about relationships, specifically young relationships. You have good points. Love is too commonly claimed these days, but I do however believe it's possible.
ReplyDelete"There could be a few exceptions to this theory". Thank you for your comment!
ReplyDeletewoo, blog dramz. I loves it. Kudos on starting a good discussion!
ReplyDeleteHere's my two cents: Love is not about two people as much as it is about two lives colliding at the opportune time. Love emerges when two souls connect and click at a certain place in time that works perfectly for each individual. When people say Love happens when the "stars align", I think they're right.
So, there are many different kinds of Love. A high-school relationship, a college relationship, and a marriage relationship are all legitimate examples of Love- they are simply expressions of different types of Love based on different places in time.
That said, some people can be very delusional about their relationships and "I love you" really is the new STD, haha.
BY the way, because of the title of this post I have had "She's one in a million....." running through my head all evening!
ReplyDeleteHaha man, everyone has some crazy theories nowadays. Mere, I agree with most of the things you touch on in this post. I agree that the phrase "I love you" is thrown around way too early and loosely. And I also agree that when in relationships, you can be blinded and put your own on a pedestal; however, I feel that an outside source cannot make that call. Relationships are an adventure and so very unpredictable for those in them, how can we infer being outsiders? Another point, I disagree with, respectively of course, is your feelings on love. Relationships are based on effort. What are we all 18-19? Whose to say that love isn't possibly felt by our peers? Age is irrelevant when it comes to love and relationships. It really comes down to how much the other is willing to put in, and thus receive in return. All relationships are like that, including friendships, and in reality, what are romantic relationships? Intimate friendships. It does not matter the age, people 20 years older than us still have not experienced love or can even begin to define it. I know you have had a couple rough patches with relationships, but you can't let your bitterness get the best of you. You're right to say that "love is more" when looking at your own history, but to make it a general theme about most relationships is wrong. Good post, I enjoyed it. Everyone's experiences are valid, just remember that we all don't experience the same thing.
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